“Compassion,” wrote historian Karen Armstrong in considering the proper meaning of the Golden Rule, “asks us to look into our own hearts, discover what gives us pain, and then refuse, under any circumstance whatsoever, to inflict that pain on anybody else.” In herbeautiful ode to compassion, Lucinda Williams urged: “Have compassion for everyone you meet … You do not know what wars are going on down there, where the spirit meets the bone.”
And yet even the most compassionate among us have one sizable blind spot: the self. Our culture’s epidemic of self-criticism has left us woefully unskilled at self-compassion — that essential anchor of sanity, which both grounds and elevates our spirit.
More here – brainpickings
When in New York there are lot of things that I would call tourist experiences, seeing the Empire State Building, breakfast at the Loeb Boathouse at Central Park or even catching a show on Broadway. These are all things you should do if you come here since they are all part of the quintessential New York experience. However, there is one experience which I would not class as a tourist experience and that is the 9/11 Memorial, it is something I don’t think people set out to see as part of their New York itinerary, they simply find themselves there as part of wandering around the financial district. The geopolitical arguments as to why such as event could occur and the idiot conspiracy theories hold no currency for me because it is a site if enormous tragedy and like all these monuments to consequences of our violent nature they hold great power and they remind us that whilst we are temporary the memory of us is not. We live on in the lives of others and as such we have a form of immortality but this immortality of memory is a reflection of who we were in life.
The photo I snapped above is of the name of one of the victims of 9/11 – it caught my eye simply because the vibrancy of the colour of the flowers clashed so starkly with the sombre nature of the memorial. For those who have not seen the memorial it consists of two massive reflection pools that show the footprint of the two towers, the water from these pools flows into a representation of the lift shafts of the old building. Along the wall of the pools are etched in bronze the names of all those who died on that day in each of the towers. The names of emergency works that died rushing into the buildings as they collapsed are marked by the fire company or service they belonged to.
The flowers were placed on the name of David Michael Barkway who was 34 at the time of his death. What caught my eye was not that someone remembered David and placed these flowers here for his memory but that their memory they have of him is marked by flowers of tremendous vibrancy and colour – the energy of which my photograph does not do justice to. They clash so beautifully and so starkly with the dark tones of their surrounds. Transcending their own pain they left a small piece of beauty for others. David had left something behind, something so indelible and timeless that even the events of 15 years ago could not snuff it out. The person who left those flowers and all the others next to names could not have known that at the time they said goodbye to them that it would have been the last goodbye and that they would slip forever from their grasp. Each time we say goodbye we leave something behind, a memory, a piece of ourselves that the other person holds onto either consciously or subconsciously. The echo of each of our interactions is for us to control since each goodbye is a small death – we are removed from those we want to spend time with. We choose what our echo will be and what sort of mark we will leave on those we say goodbye to.
The researchers found that people who were both successful and happy over the long term intentionally structured their activities around four major needs:
Happiness: They pursued activities that produced pleasure and satisfaction.
Achievement: They pursued activities that got tangible results.
Significance: They pursued activities that made a positive impact on the people who matter most.
Legacy: They pursued activities through which they could pass their values and knowledge on to others.
Lasting fulfillment comes when you pursue activities that address all four of these needs. When any one of them is missing, you get a nagging sense that you should be doing more (or something different).
The behaviors that follow are the hallmarks of people who are successful and happy because they address these four needs. Try them out and see what they do for you.
They are passionate. Jane Goodall left her home in England and moved to Tanzania at age 26 to begin studying chimpanzees. It became her life’s work, and Goodall has devoted herself fully to her cause while inspiring many others to do the same. Successful, happy people don’t just have interests; they have passions, and they devote themselves completely to them.
More here – World Economic Forum.
In decision making the quality of any decision you make is bounded by a series of strictures, the time you have to make the decision, the quality of the information you receive and your cognitive abilities to process the information you receive. Decision making can never be perfect because no collection of these inputs will ever be perfect or infinite in nature. The assume is therefore that rational decision making has limits that we all struggle with. The flip side of this appears to be that human irrationality is unbounded.
Cheryl Welsh has been the target of a secret U.S. government mind-control experiment for almost 30 years.
Or, so she believes. A former medical receptionist in Sacramento, Welsh was a freshman at the University of California, Davis in 1987 when she noticed electrical appliances were “remotely targeted to harass” her. Phones, cars, typewriters, and TVs would stop working at inopportune times.
“Streetlights would go on and off as I walked by, and this was before the sensor technology of today,” Welsh told The Daily Beast. “I traveled to Wisconsin and went to Europe, but wherever I went, the strange harassive things would occur.”
Soon, Welsh became convinced that her thoughts were being read by unknown external forces, “24/7, with precision.” She says staged situations played out on the street in front of her, engineered by strangers who appeared to know exactly what she was thinking.
Welsh was terrified. But she was too embarrassed to say anything to anyone for fear of sounding crazy.
“I’ve always trusted my mental health, and I don’t believe in the supernatural, or UFOs, or anything like that,” Welsh said. “So I knew I wasn’t imagining these things.”
She set out to find others who had experienced similar phenomena, and found that she was not alone. Welsh eventually came to the conclusion that she was the subject of covert U.S. government testing. After all, she explains, who but the government possessed the technological know-how to cause what she was experiencing?
More here – The Daily Beast
And people wonder why the world is like it is……..